A 101 GUIDE ON HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS AT UNIVERSITY.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
There I said it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You know what\u2019s harder? Adult friendships at university.
Looking back, we had it so easy as children; you chose someone in your class, grabbed their hand and they became your friend to play tag with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
No one cared if your eyebrows were on fleek (are we still saying that?!), no one cared what generation iPhone you had, no one cared whether you had a thigh gap and definitely no one cared if you owned a pair of Huaraches.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I will let you in on a little secret.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The only one who cares about these things now<\/em> is us and the odd person that we meet who does<\/em> care, well maybe they aren\u2019t worth our friendship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Don\u2019t get me wrong, adult friendships are still hard. Trying to coordinate timetables, not break the bank and<\/em> get anywhere in Auckland city traffic can seem almost impossible. So much so that often it seems easier to not bother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But let me tell you why we should<\/em> bother to make and maintain friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Happiness<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When on their deathbed people are asked, what made them happy in life more often than not their answer was relationships. And you know what, take it from someone who is in their fifth year of university, you are not<\/em> going to be a good student if you aren\u2019t happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So how to make and maintain friends in this jungle? Here are a couple of tips<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To make friends? Easy. Talk to people. Okay fair enough, that isn\u2019t easy for everyone, especially if you are an introvert, but don\u2019t worry everyone is as worried and anxious as you are, some of us are just better at hiding it. It doesn\u2019t have to be complicated conversation either, no one needs to solve the problems of the Middle East; how about What is the last movie you saw?<\/em> Or What is your favourite TV show?<\/em>
Jumanji and Jane the Virgin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Basically you need to find something in common and once you do? You will be fine. Just think about She\u2019s The Man<\/em> and Do you like Gouda<\/em> conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Side note; clubs are a great way of making friends too!
Once we have friends we need to keep them and to do that we need to make an effort to connect meaningfully.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now that isn\u2019t easy with busy schedules but we don\u2019t have to see each other all the time, once a week, once a fortnight, even once a month can be great.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I only see my best friend about once a fortnight in busy times but we spend hours<\/em> together when we do and she is definitely a source of happiness in my life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What you do doesn\u2019t have to be complicated or expensive either. A couple of my favorite things are to walk up Mount Eden, catch a movie at someone\u2019s place or to cook a shared meal at a friend\u2019s apartment. But honestly whatever works for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Making and keeping friends is hard, everyone gets anxious about it, no one is perfect at it. But you just have to try and it definitely makes university a happier place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Friendship and How to Make Friends at Uni was written by the team at University Confessions. Mental health has always been a problem with the student demographic, which shouldn’t be ignored. Together with University Confessions, we hope to make a positive difference.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
A 101 GUIDE ON HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS AT UNIVERSITY. \u201cThere is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.\u201d Thomas Aquinas Adult friendships are hard. There I said it. You know what\u2019s harder? 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