HEARTBREAKS HURT. BUT IT DOESN’T MEAN IT’S FOREVER. THIS IS HOW I GOT THROUGH IT.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
The problem with heartbreak is that it is both physically and emotionally painful<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Physical<\/strong> because crying literally hurts. Sore nose, puffy eyes and little sleep. And then there is the emotional<\/strong> pain that is much more subtle but a million times harder. <\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Worst of all? It cannot be drowned in alcohol, drugs, sleep or pain medication. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The only real antidote<\/strong> for any sort of emotional pain is self-care, self-love and facing hard emotions<\/strong><\/em>. Sitting with ourselves and understanding why it hurts and then writing it down. Every. Single. Big. Small. All. Consuming. Emotion<\/em>. Getting it out of our head and taking a breath. Then ultimately? Time heals<\/em><\/strong>. The word ‘human’<\/em> in the Arabic language is ‘Insaan’<\/em>, its root? The phrase ‘to forget’<\/em>. I love that. Our ability to forget can certainly seem like a curse but in heartbreak, it is definitely a blessing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The truth?<\/strong> With time, the pain dulls, eventually fading away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
#2. I Will Never Meet Someone Else AKA #foreveralone<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
This is a common rhetoric because whether you broke up with them or they broke up with you, heartbreak feels permanent<\/strong><\/em>. Thoughts like “how can I ever love someone more?”<\/em> and “everyone is going to break my heart anyways”<\/em> are spirals. False spirals<\/em><\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The truth?<\/strong> There are over seven and a half billion people on this planet and statistically, the chances of you not meeting someone are low. Unless you actually want to be single, which is fantastic too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
#3. I Am Unlovable<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
There is something about heartbreak that makes us feel crappy and naturally we start to pick ourselves apart. For me? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I told myself that I was too much<\/strong>, and not tall, blonde, blue-eyed<\/strong>. Obviously, both these things mean I am unlovable<\/strong>, right? <\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Only months later did I realise that this was ridiculous<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The truth?<\/strong> There will be someone among the billions that finds your insecurities endearing and loves you either because or in spite of them<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
#4. This Was All My Fault<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
With time, emotions dull until the blessing and curse of hindsight sets in. If at that stage you would like to identify your weaknesses and make a conscious effort not to bring them into your next relationship I think that’s fantastic. After all, heartbreak is just another form of failure that we can come back from<\/em>. Stronger<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
For example, my weakness are definitely communication and confrontation.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
But while it’s fresh, my advice is to leave it and not beat yourself up because there are always two sides to every story<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The truth?<\/strong> Yes, you may have done some crappy things<\/em> but you know what? They probably did too<\/em>. Or yes, they may have done some crappy things but you probably did too<\/em>. It’s okay, that’s life and all we can do is be better.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Truths<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
- It will stop hurting – time heals all wounds<\/li>
- There are billions of people on the planet, being forever alone is statistically unlikely<\/li>
- If there are people out there that are in love with roller coasters, someone will love my crooked nose<\/li>
- It is no one’s fault – we can all do better<\/li><\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
HEARTBREAKS HURT. BUT IT DOESN’T MEAN IT’S FOREVER. THIS IS HOW I GOT THROUGH IT. ‘Hard feelings. These are what they call hard feelings of love.‘ – Lorde #1. This Will Never Stop Hurting The problem with heartbreak is that it is both physically and emotionally painful. Physical because crying literally hurts. 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