Winter is coming (or supposedly already here) and we are not impressed. The search for a cuddle buddy is on, but which dating app should you use?
Tinder and Bumble, two of the biggest dating apps right now. What are the differences and who holds the true crown?
Well, I have taken it upon myself to sort this out so you can dive head first to meet the many fishes in the sea. To rate them, I’ll be comparing:
Readers discretion: all of this is based off a combination of my own experiences and what I’ve read or heard from others. It holds little factual basis. Everyone has their own cup of tea.
The mother of dating apps. An app designed for a LIT night. Filled with users looking for a good time, not a long time. If you were ever confused about what a basic bitch or fuckboy looked like, hop on Tinder and you’ll get to meet all the variations of them.
Ever had the birds and bees talk with your parents? Bumble reminds me of those innocent days but in dating app form. Here, women take the first step in making conversation for a start! Users provide detailed information on what they’re looking for and their values (political, religious). I envision the Ed Sheerans, Peter Parkers and “Girl Next Door” people on this app.
Tinder 3/5
The standard options are on both apps, however Tinder lets you add up to 9 photos and has the option of uploading short “Boomerang-like” clips instead. They also have the news feed option, where you are able to see profile updates from your matches. Personally, I find this to be a bit creepy, but I guess it’s a great way to know if someone is still active and on the prowl!
Bumble 4.5/5
You get all the standard options and are only able to upload six photos.Added features include adding pets, height, interests, habits, religious, political and social values. I mean, there is the stereotypical belief that people who are taller OR have pets tend to appear more attractive.
Tinder “dtf?” 3/5
In all honesty, there is quite a variety in conversation lengths. I’ve personally had some pretty entertaining, long conversations on Tinder and extremely short-lived ones too. You can usually weed out the potential “dtf” ones because their bio’s tend to have something along the lines of “here for a good time, not a long time” or just a blank space.
Bumble “insert conversation starter here“ 5/5
Only girls are able to make the first move and Bumble provides options of conversation starters; thank you Bumble, they are a godsend. Similar to Tinder, conversation lengths are pretty varied, although when they happen it is relatively quick. A result of the 24 hour time limit!
I never realised how much anxiety a red circle around a picture could cause me (and apparently guys on the app). That’s right ladies, they know when you’ve matched with them. Poor guys get to watch as time passes and they get no messages.
I find that the same people will post different pictures on Tinder vs Bumble. The hotness scale rating is based on said pictures, not the people themselves.
Tinder 4/5
Better known for being the hookup app, people seem to post their more mainstream and basic photos here. There are the IG models in bikinis with profiles that say, “not on here much, follow me on IG: @influencer”, topless pictures of guys at the beach subtly (or not so) flexing with “add me on snap: thenextchad” in their bios. There is no doubt that there are many attractive profiles on Tinder that are *drumroll please* CATFISHES!
Bumble 3.5/5
There are fewer topless and bikini pics, replaced with happy smiles after doing something adventurous. Maybe it’s the happy yellow coloured background, but I find that people really try to make their Bumble profiles as approachable and genuine as possible. In fact, I might look at a guy on Bumble and think this is someone I could definitely have good yarns with; then find out he’s got a pretty fit body on Tinder.
Tinder 5/5
I have spent many hours scrolling through r/Tinder and have no regrets! If you’re ever in need of a study break, I highly recommend. There are memes on conversations and bios. It’s pretty funny seeing people attempt cheesy pickup lines and dad jokes. Better yet? It’s cool to see them actually work.
Bumble 3/5
The memes from conversations on Bumble can be occasionally found on r/Tinder. The subreddit r/Bumble seems to be a little more serious with people talking about their experiences and asking for advice. Don’t worry though, there are still quality memes to be found there! A few of them being the standard conversation starters that girls can opt for on Bumble.
Tinder 5/5
Their web version even comes with a “work mode”!
Bumble 3/5
Bumble also offers a web version but it doesn’t have the stealthy work mode that Tinder offers. I’m assuming their adorably shy target market wouldn’t really use this at work anyway?
Tinder 3.5/5
You can find every race in Auckland on this app. There are predominantly Caucasian and Brown users, but more Asians and Pasifika people are starting to use the app. Or is it just me?
Bumble 4/5
There seems to be a balanced ratio of Caucasians, Asians, Brown and Pasifika.
Disclaimer: I do not have anything against / for the races. It is merely an observation and would love to know if that’s just the algorithm feed for me.
There you have it! Tinder wins by just 0.5 points. In all seriousness though, you do you. If you have found that you are having more like on Bumble then maybe that’s where your type of guys/girls are active on.
Her: A dating app for females who are into other females. Very LBTQ friendly.
Grindr: Men looking for other men. Very GBTQ friendly.
Happn: Where you find people based on geo-location, as in people who you are most likely to “happen upon”. Also dubbed the most “stalkerish” by The Hits.
Coffee Meets Bagel: You get a limited amount of opportunities each day and the profiles are extremely detailed
Here’s some exam good luck from magic cat.
]]>Congratulations and welcome back to Hell. From now until exam season, you will test your limits physically, mentally and emotionally. Don’t worry though, the whole student body is with you, including me.
Ever heard of writer’s block? You’re going to face writer’s great wall of China.
If your assignments are referencing intensive, find a reference manager and learn how to use it! It will save you so much time, and maybe, you’ll be able to catch up on some sleep. Here are the ones that I recommend:
Pro tips:
If you’re doing Stats, Compsci and any other coding related courses at UoA, the Compsci and Stats labs in 303 are VERY helpful. In fact, I would recommend doing your assignments there, or at assistance rooms. You’ll meet other kindred souls and assignments will be done faster and with more confidence.
Have you ever gone to sleep tired, woke up more exhausted, and had to have a constant stream of coffee and energy drinks flowing through your veins to function? Here are some tips that may just help with that.
Use these apps:
or this:
As always, if you found anything here helpful, have more tips to share and/or even have a topic idea, feel free to reach out to me at [email protected]
It’s 2019, here’s a recap on social media in the last decade or two.
Facebook was created in 2004, Youtube in 2005, Snapchat and Instagram almost ten years ago! Oh yea, remember Vine? Created in 2012 then shut down in 2017.
I bet you’re thinking, “ I’m not dependent, I could totally live without social media.”
These platforms were only created a decade or two ago. Crazy to think about how dependent we are on them right?
Oxford Dictionaries defines “FOMO” as “anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media”
Every flick of the finger on social media produces a whole new stream of posts and images.
Snapshots of your dream life.
That’s when loneliness seems to start creeping in; a wave of FOMO crashes over us.
Now we’re swiping on Tinder, going on Instagram and Snapchat. We’re hoping for a fix, alternatives to fill that empty hole in our chest – getting those matches and likes that feel so good.
How can we not feel left out? Watching people live their best lives, while we sit on a bench scuffing down lunch before rushing to our next meeting, class or tutorial. These little actions we take accumulate and feed into our insecurities. It keeps us going in the vicious cycle, making us feel lonelier and less satisfied with our own company.
We get to a point that we fear missing out so much, we can no longer stand being by ourselves.
Ever heard of Dunbar’s Number? It’s a theory that humans are able to have 150 meaningful connections at any given moment. The average number of Facebook friends users have are 338 connections. Now, combine that with our new measures of friendships; Snapstreaks and Instagram likes. It’s no wonder, people are feeling less connected, lonelier, more depressed and anxious than ever.
Everyone goes through phases of loneliness in University. It’s just what happens as we shift from being in the same class, around the same people for five years, to being in different classes of hundreds each semester. Everyone’s busy trying to succeed, maybe even survive – taking up part-time jobs, internships, library seats.
Somewhere in the midst of this rat race, we start to feel lonely.
We attach so many requirements to being happy,
“I’ll be happy when I’ve finished university… I’ll be happy on a LIT night out… I’ll be happy travelling in Europe next semester…”
You know how you always wish the best for your friends?
I wonder, have we ever stopped and really thought “I wish the best for myself?”.Have we ever considered what we want and what we need?
What kind of loneliness are you feeling? Why are you lonely? This article might help you identify which 7 types of loneliness YOU are feeling and what steps to take.
For example…
Being alone can be uncomfortable, but that’s because we’ve spent so little time with ourselves that being alone is like being stuck in a room with a stranger. It’s not something to “fix”, it’s something to enjoy!
Go back to the checklist at the top, choose ONE to “DETOX”. For example, no more looking at your phone at bus stops.
Spend 10 minutes alone. No phone or computer.
How does that feel?
As always, I’d love to hear about your loneliness and any other topics you’d like to explore.
]]>It’s that time of the semester again. General library gets pretty packed. Finding a computer to use on any level in Kate Edgar is near impossible. Money seems to mysteriously vanish from your bank account, replaced by much needed coffee and energy drinks.
You wake up and ask yourself
“Is this all worth it; feeling like a zombie from The Walking Dead?” while chugging back another can of V.
Hey, maybe you’re like me, struggling to get to the finish line. I remember wondering why it got more difficult every semester. Was it foreshadowing? Was I just less motivated? Unlike me (I hope!), you managed to pull through.
Here’s a little backstory: I broke down. Several times. In fact, I lashed out on the people closest to me and just couldn’t seem to get it together. I kept thinking that I was being weak for not being able to pull through like the rest of my cohort. Eventually, loved ones suggested I go to counselling. I did -best decision ever. Through counselling, I realised that I had been suffering a burnout and had been denying it for a while.
Well, according to Wiki (yea I know, but let’s be real, everyone uses it as a starting point), burnout can be defined as
“occupational burnout resulting from long-term, unresolvable, job stress.“
TL:DR – Being in a zombie state physically, mentally and emotionally. In the long run, you will eventually become a zombie.
It’s your body’s way of telling you that you currently do not have enough resources to meet all your demands. Essentially your body’s saying :
Imagine a rubber band that’s been stretched to its limits, now imagine trying to stretch it even more. It breaks or snaps back, hurting you in the process. That rubber band ‘IS a burned out individual’. When we keep pushing, we either break down, and/or end up hurting everyone around us in the process. Eventually, the rubber band permanently loses its elasticity and form.
In the long run, burn out can lead to a whole range of issues, such as heart diseases, digestive issues, depression, depreciating performance.
Here’s an amazing video by Thomas Frank to help:
His tips are:
4. Take a break
5. Ask for help; let’s talk about it.
My simple tips:
Good luck with exams <3
P/S: Want to to share your story? Have a topic you want me to write about? Flick me a message at [email protected]. Always keen for a chat!
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